This viral video maybe very disturbing; has sexual, nudity and violent content. It may not be suitable for your viewing; you are cordially advised. A story we had during our male sexual abuse episode. A young man who raped a little girl but was let free roaming the streets without justice, this forced young men in the neighborhood to take the law in their own hands to pay the young man in his own coin. I cannot begin to criticize what’s wrong with this…ALOT is wrong with this. This video is very upsetting. No form of rape for whatever motive is WRONG!
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Putting the question out there on instagram, “How many of you were abused as a child?” gave me courage to talk about this. I could not believe the stories and the number of people who were taken advantage of sexually by some adult.
The difficult part isn’t about sharing the story, it is more about the tag of ‘sexual abuse’; it makes you feel vulnerable…makes you a victim. But that is what this blog is about. Letting out the #unsaid
Sharing this and talking about this, I know empowers victims and brings to light demons that eats them up; where it cant hurt them any longer.
Child abuse is real…male sexual abuse is real…let’s share this article. Let’s talk about it because that is a BIG way to end this awful cycle and take away it’s power.
There are bullies…there have always been bullies in schools all over the world. Bullying however is manifested in various ways such as verbal, physical and sometimes non-verbal actions like isolation.
In this post, I am going to give you a glimpse of what bullying is like in Ghana. It is good news that bullying is reducing in our schools and not as severe as they used to be. In most schools in Ghana, bullying is prohibited; a student is dismissed when caught or reported to bully another student. This harsh punishment is however not a deterrent to students at all. Students do not report it because they are afraid of the repercussion there after from other seniors. Students have also been wired to endure such treatments from seniors by the claim of it being norm. Since the authorities do not spend time with the students in the dormitories where the student spend a huge chunk of their time together, bullying is most severe in the dormitories. Mentioning a few stories to give you a glimpse of what bullying is like in Ghana.
STORY NUMBER 1
In a school in Cape Coast some time back, I heard a story about a boy who died from suffocation when he was kept in a trunk-box for several hours. A male junior with a small frame was just walking past when the seniors saw him, they made fun of him for how small he was and bullied him. He was put in a trunk and locked it; they were so engaged in a lengthy conversation while one of the seniors sat on the trunk. The thought of it is disheartening especially when I think about the fact that the boy could be cluster phobic or asthmatic; even if he wasn’t, can you imagine how terrible that was? He cried and cried; begging to be free till he had no strength left. The weirdest part of the story was that the seniors sat there and talked, forgetting that the boy was in the trunk. When they remembered and opened the trunk, the little boy was dead.
STORY NUMBER 2
Another young man in a school in the Cape Coast of Ghana suffered paralysis from being bullied. It was a normal thing for students to be punished by carrying trunk-boxes. Only that for this student, a heavy trunk was dropped in a plop onto his back while a senior trampled on it. After the terrible ordeal, the boy couldn’t get up again.
STORY NUMBER 3
A friend of mine who was transferred from a school in Koforidua to my school had experienced a lot of difficulty in the hands of the seniors. He talked about being unable to go back to the dormitory because of how much he was terrorized when he went there. He said he didn’t bath for weeks; he described being so dirty that you could gather dirt if you passed your fingers on his skin. He spent most of his time sleeping in classrooms because of how badly he was treated by seniors when he went to the dormitory. Sometimes for the fun of it, he was asked to go naked and hump a wall which had holes in it and was forced to moan while he did it.
This and many others were the experiences that most people who have schooled in Ghana experienced in High School. This is nothing to be compared to the emotional trauma and stress that comes with it. Some students bully others by isolating them, talking down at them, pushing them around, teasing them and doing many other things just to break their confidence; the perpetuators could either be seniors or mates.
Despite the seriousness of these happenings in Ghanaian schools, it will surprise you to know that I have never heard a public address on such matters where serious measures were put in place to curb such occurrences. It is even more surprising for you to know that people who have been hurt through bullying and have hurt others believe it should be a ‘tradition’; never had I heard such nonsense being hailed as sanity till I went to High School in Ghana.
One thing that these kids do not realize is the fact that there is life after school. After High School, in many occasions have I met people who bullied me; there were moments I believed for the first time that they realized how foolish they’ve been for bullying others.
I was in my father’s office one day when a woman walked in with her son; they came in to ask for support concerning a land they had acquired. My father, being a philanthropic real estate owner listened to their story and was moved to help them because the woman was a widow. The son of that woman was a guy who was brutal back in High School and particularly bullied me. I could see how uncomfortable he was and when he was introduced to me, it would have been a great opportunity for him to say, “Oh I know him. He was a junior I supported and helped when he was just a newbie who didn’t know much about how to live by himself”. That would have made my dad so happy…what a great way to start a strong family relationship.
Unfortunately the story would have been, “He was the junior I terrorized and took most of his food for the term. Forced him to wash my clothes at inappropriate hours, scrub the veranda with a toothbrush and almost beat him to a pulp when he missed washing my jumper right before Sunday service in the evening but for intervention of people that were present. This was the junior I put fear into for no apparent reason.” Because he couldn’t have said that, he was silent and didn’t say a word about ever knowing me neither did I.
I have met many others after that in very compromising situations…like one dating a close friend of mine and acting like he’s got amnesia about High School whenever he saw me.
What I am saying is, school is just a part of a journey; the real journey is after school. Take the opportunity of having juniors or even mates as a stepping stone to move higher in life; be friendly, support each other, treat people with love, respect and empathy because you may never know. They might be the trigger of great things in your life.
Click on the share button to spread the message and information to others especially youngsters in schools. #bullyingmuststop
Our instagram bodybuilder for the week is @cybee20. His real name is Richmond Appiah. As mentioned every week, to be mentioned as the unsaid instagram personality, you have to be great at what you do, there should be something controversial lingering on top of your head for us to investigate(you could be safe or not, depending on what we dig up) but no!, it doesn’t matter your support system; your account could be fairly new with little or more followers.
Why is @cybee20 our instagram personality for the week
He is the King of Bodybuilders
The biggest; in fact the BEST looking Ghanaian Instagram bodybuilder I have seen from Ghana. If how good he looks is directly proportional to his followership, he’d be more than hurricane_gh. I think the difference between these two bodybuilders is what they actually do with their instagram account. Unlike most bodybuilders, @cybee20 is not as consistent with posting as the others; he does not really offer tutorials or guidance to followers who want to bulk up as he is. People look for value not only aesthetics and that is the only reasons I believe @cybee20 is not getting the recognition he deserves.
Too many Ding dongs & egg plants on display:
@cybee20 has deleted a couple of videos and pictures from his instagram page which was deemed as overly revealing. Usually revealing his ding-dong in his boxers making girls lose their minds over him-they go GAGA!
He’s a snob:
People think he is a snob. When @cybee20 was posted among the selected few instagram personalities, some comments I had from viewers about him was, “That guy dey see body”, “That guy no go biss you when you message am sef”, “If you don’t have a vagina, he won’t respond to your messages”
Fake accounts posing as him and pimping him out:
I think this just comes with being good looking and great at what you do. But a few fake accounts popped up of him that were pimping him out which some instagram users believed were true. Some of these fake accounts were portraying him as a gigolo,escort and a bisexual. Thankfully, Instagram took down those accounts. So those that thought those things about him, sorry. It’s not true.
Unto our Date/Smash Challenge
More people would rather date him than smash him. Generally speaking, that’s good. People wanting to date you means they’d rather be with you for the long hall. So let’s go see what he actually thinks from our interview. Asking all the questions you’ve been dying to ask.
Me: What are you most afraid of?
@Cybee20: Waking up and seeing dem gains lost.
Me: What puts you off in a person?
@Cybee20: Nothing puts me off in a person.
Me: What attracts you to a person?
@Cybee20: Someone who is really free to interact with.
Me: Are you in a relationship?
Me: Why aren’t you in a relationship?
@cybee20: A bit stressful sometimes( he laughs)
I totally understand.
Me: What’s the dirtiest thing you’ve ever done?
@Cybee20: Hiding under a bed watching my roommate fuck his girlfriend.
Then I died laughing. It happened to me too but I didn’t hide, they thought I was asleep. The torture….
Me: How dirty can you go?
@Cybee20: I don’t know mine yet
Me: Do you believe in God
@Cybee20: Yes I believe in God. I am a devoted Christian
Me: What do you love about Instagram?
@Cybee20: Trash talk and funny videos
Me: What wrong perception do you think people have about you?
@Cybee20: People thinking I’m gay or bisexual because of the photos and videos I post.
Me: What don’t you like about Instagram?
@Cybee20: Fake accounts disturbing people
Me: What do you mean by fake accounts?
@Cybee20: I mean fake accounts disturbing us.( he giggles) Acting as girls but aint girls. You get me right?
Me: Yes, I do.
What do I think?
What he revealed in the interview which became subject of this article is very true and absolutely relatable. Almost every person I have interviewed who’s into fitness has always complained about people especially males coming forward and being overly sexual, flirty, rude and inappropriate. Guys posing as girls is now the new trend when they find out you’re not into them. That can be upsetting for most instagram users especially those into fitness.
I don’t think @cybee20 is a snob. I think people should be more courteous and appropriate with the way they approach instagram personalities. It is always best to pass a compliment as an opener to a conversation than “hi”, “what are you doing?”, “Sup” when you know there are many of those already in their dms and you are a stranger. Realistically speaking, what should make him tell a stranger what he’s up to or respond to every ‘hi’ he gets which is nearly impossible. Starting off like that seems like you have nothing to say, just chit chat. Unless he is in that place for a chit chat and why should he chit chat with you and not the previous person? Put yourself in their shoes and you will understand. Just thinking out loud!
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The fact that I am going to talk about this gives me a few butterflies in my belly. I was the kind of person that didn’t have much self-love and that made it quite difficult for me growing up. This stuck with me for a long time and it caused me to beat myself up quite a lot about everything I felt was different and not the norm about me. Some of these are crazy and it gives you a glimpse of what inferiority complex really is like. It is indeed a tough journey of recovery for anybody that has to deal with that at any point in their lives.
- My surname: I wasn’t fond of my surname. Can you imagine? Who says that? As pronounced in the video, I didn’t like it. Growing up, I seriously thought my family was the only one with the surname. Now that I’m older, I realize that, despite how awfully rare my surname is, there are people with that name in Ghana and even China as well. I love my surname now….it is silly when I think about the fact that I hated how it was pronounced and how it sounded. A friend of mine used to say that witches call out my surname at night but the truth is, he compared the ‘meow’ of cats he heard at night to my name. Silly Boy!
- My 12 siblings: When people ask, “How many siblings do you have?” I remember when I was younger, I tried to reduce the number because people usually laughed and probed further whenever I said 12. Sometimes I just choose to mention only my mum’s so that I get a smaller number even though that is not even small enough to escape the usual reaction. When people ask, “How many children does your father have?” I usually started to sweat all of a sudden and confused because I tried to think of a way to evade the question. Such a silly thing to be embarrassed about.
- My polygamous family: Coming from a polygamous family where my dad had 3 wives was such an embarrassing thing for me. This was mostly due to the fact that Ghanaians are predominantly Christian and polygamy is not encouraged much among the Christendom in the society. In almost every gathering, in school or church, I was so sure I was the only one from a polygamous household. The sense of being alone and not having the usual family experience was one of the things that made it difficult to talk about or feel proud of my polygamous family. Find out more about my family and polygamy here.
- The fact that I wasn’t active growing up. Most children are naturally very active; jumping around, playing soccer, going swimming, hockey, basketball but I was not interested in any of those activities. In Grade School, teachers called me names and one of those was Old man. They called me that because I acted like that; I was not active much. I wouldn’t play any sport. I’d rather sit quietly in my corner and imagine; very deep in thought. I create my own world in my mind and think about beautiful stars and putting stories together in my mind. It was how creative writing started for me in Grade School; writing stories bookworms loved but pestered my friends and family with. This has been part of me till High School where I was disliked by my physical education teacher because of my lack of interest in the practical. I wouldn’t turn up for any of the sport events except for swimming lessons. I’d rather hide during those hours in the music room writing stories. I remember my physical education teacher visiting my dorm after school in search of me for skipping his practical lessons; something he never did to anybody else. He simply couldn’t understand it. And that is me yorr!
- The fact that I have never drunk hard liquor nor did any drugs. Believe it or not, sometimes I feel weird about this. Spending all my time with Christian friends, I never felt weird about this or out of place till my first year in the university when my roommates and his friends did hard liquor and sometimes weed. Spending more time with some class mates made me feel a little weird about these especially with alcohol. It was mostly because of what they said to me and how they reacted whenever they found out I don’t drink or smoke. When we go to a party and even my female friends are drinking alcohol which they describe as “Alcohol for ladies”; when they offer it to me and I turn it down, I felt embarrassed and weirded out about it sometimes.
- My sex life: I have always had people asking me about my sex life. This intensified in the university when all my friends will just not stop talking about sex; where sex became the order of the day. Where our get-togethers turned near sex parties, it was a very usual question I got, “Are you a virgin?” I cannot begin to count the number of times I lied just to let them off my back or ignored them. My friends have recommended that I see the doctor for help, they believe I have been sexually abused, some think I have no libido at all, some think I must be asexual, some have asked me to explore more into my sexuality. These ideas that people generally have about sex and how different I feel about it makes me kind of embarrassed about my sex life.
- Dating: I explain the reason why I have never dated here. For a lot of people, dating is like shopping for clothes. You keep trying till you get the right fit but I see dating very differently which I believe you should check out in this post. However, my stance with dating and lack of much experience in the field is part of the things I have been embarrassed about.
The point of this post is simple. It is very easy for you to feel very awkward and weird when you are different from the majority. Likely, you can easily be embarrassed about who you are if you feel like you are the only one in the whole world that’s like you.
But reality is, even though it took me too long, tears, time and self-hate to learn this, it is better to be UNIQUE than to be the THE BEST. THE BEST makes you number one but UNIQUE makes you THE ONLY ONE. In a world where some are jostling to be seen for any reason what so ever. Nothing about you is flawed when you are UNIQUE. Nothing about you is flawed when you stay in your lane and enjoy your process.
Be different! Stand out!
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This may probably sky rocket his followers or not but our instagram personality for this week is Desmond. For you to be mentioned as an #unsaid instagram personality, you’ve got to have steady growth in your instagram account no matter how small or new your instagram page is, you’ve got to be doing pretty well with it, there should be some controversy surrounding you to make you #unsaid.
Reasons why Desmond is our #unsaid instagram personality for the week.
His instagram account is fairly new; however, he is making some bold statements about his sexuality and his bodybuilding prowess which is gaining him some attention and steady growth on his instagram account. He has however on a few times debunked his own words on being bisexual, he continues to make statements in that regard anyways.
He is doing pretty well with motivating his followers to work out. He is obviously new at bodybuilding but seems to be gaining muscle pretty fast. His consistency at the gym is one to try to keep up with.
He’s taken some daring pictures which his followers sometimes describes as thirst trapping; he loves to stick his tongue out in every picture, leaving a dick print here and there, shower pictures and then posting and boasting about his girlfriend(s).
So I asked my followers, with the date or smash challenge of some Instagram personalities, this was the result for Desmond. So they’d rather smash him than date him. 20% difference. At least, they would smash him( LOL)
Most people from the U.S.A found him attractive especially white people. The reaction of many Ghanaians to him was “He is okay…or maybe err…sexy”; that could be Ghanaians just being typical, you can never really read my people. But mostly, people from the U.S.A were crazy about him.
I did a little interview with Desmond, I tried to keep it nice and simple; also tried to read between the lines to snatch the truth right from his breath.
Me: What are you most afraid of?
Desmond: Losing my parents
Me: What puts you off in a person?
Desmond: When someone rejects me( he laughs)
Me: What don’t you like about instagram?
Desmond: When you post a nice picture they ain’t gonna like but a picture you don’t expect much likes that’s when you gonna get it. I also hate it when someone pm to ask of me being bisexual. They aint feeding me so why don’t they mind their damn fucking bisexual ( he laughs) They can’t feed me sef!
Me: Talking about being bisexual, are you really bisexual?
Me: So why do you get angry when you are asked?
Desmond: I have a girlfriend ( he laughs) And I was sharing the same account with her. I just don’t like it when guys dm. I’m cool I can give my number but they worry a lot.
Me: How dirty can you go?
Desmond: Fuck him
Me: (I laugh) As bisexual, you consider that as dirty?
Desmond: Ain’t that much innit
(Then I died laughing!)
Me: Are you religious?
Me: Which religion?
So what do I think about Desmond?
I cannot really say for sure because he knows himself better than anybody. But what I think is he is STRAIGHT as the road to hell. He is basically just fooling around. Why? I don’t know. Probably for the attention, love, the hate, whatever crazy he is into.
But one thing I know for sure is, this dude is crazy, unpredictable, and adventurous, a go-getter at the gym and in real life, confident, free spirited and CRAZY…did I miss that he is crazy?
Yes so that’s it for our instagram personality of the week! Hope you enjoyed it. You can follow him by clicking on his instagram handle here: dhesymond_
Share if you find him intriguing!
Sitting amongst friends in the third year of university, the subject of oral sex came up. I expressed my disgust, “I don’t think I can ever do that!” I exclaimed in laughter. While we laughed, I realized the laughter was somewhat at me for saying that, one of my female friends seemed to have taken the statement I made very seriously. She didn’t blink an eye at all when I said that. She leaned in and almost in a whisper, she asked, “Richard, did you say you won’t do it?” I tried to ignore her turning her face away from mine. She insistently added, “You should! It is very very important!” The rest of the girls burst into a louder laughter. Apparently, they overheard what she had been trying to communicate to me. They all emphasized on how important oral sex is to them. I remember thinking how disgusting it was and how much my future wife would have to be patient enough to teach me and wondered if I’d ever do it.
On to this post, I was having a conversation with a Christian brother a few days ago when the subject of oral sex came up. He said having oral sex with your wife is SEXUAL PERVERSION. I was shocked!
About three years ago, a very popular pastor in Ghana spoke about his healthy sexual relationship with his wife; he spoke about having sex with his wife before church services and sometimes during a fast. He even went further to talk about practicing oral sex with his wife and these raised a whole debate and argument among the Christendom. That was the first time I realized how much I wasn’t overreacting when I titled one of my blog posts as “Church is destroying our sex lives”.
I was surprised to hear that other pastors thought that sex with your own wife could be sinful when you have sex with her during a fast or before a Sunday service. The point they stressed on even the most was about their issue with oral sex with his WIFE.
The question I consistently ask when it comes to issues such as these is, “Who says oral sex is wrong” Then the usual freeze arises, and then they often say that it is the Holy Spirit that says it from within; it is intrinsic. Christianity is not intrinsic; it is based on God’s word. Basing our beliefs on how we feel and blaming God for our feelings cannot be the truth. This is because our innate judgment of wrong and right is highly influenced by our culture, our upbringing, experiences and society. If we don’t realize this, we can easily confuse our own feelings and judgments to be God’s will and forcing every other person to believe in how YOU feel. The intrinsic and innate judgment (holy spirit) of Jamaicans say it’s okay to wear dreadlocks as a Christian but that same innate judgment you call the holy spirit is telling Christians in Ghana that it is wrong. How can one spirit be that confused? It is not possible.
All I am saying is, you can stand by what you want…believe in what you want but please don’t put them on God. Put them on you!
You may not want oral sex but if someone else does, stop making them feel like devils because they do! Share this post to others by clicking the share button and let me know what you think about oral sex down below.
In a previous post, I spoke about how normal it is to feel jealous. Sometimes the sense of abnormality that people have about jealousy is actually what makes it toxic. It becomes toxic because they have this fear of accepting the existence of this very normal human emotion in them and allow it to escalate into its toxic stage where it destroys their lives and relationships. In my previous post, I even went a step further to say that it could even become an attractive trait. Yes! I did. You can find the post here.
However, when people who are afraid to admit the fact that they are jealous allow themselves to remain in denial, that emotion then gets the grounds to become toxic. And as you may already know, denial is a hopeless state of recovery.
Toxic jealousy stems from the feeling of entitlement; feelings of being entitled to a person or the feeling of owning something. When that feeling is extended to a person it can be toxic and very destructive to yourself and your relationships with others. Jealousy occurs in both friendships and romantic relationships too.
Jealousy that is a normal human trait can escalate into something very dangerous.Pathological jealousy, also known as Morbid jealousy, Othello syndrome or delusional jealousy, is a psychological disorder in which a person is preoccupied with the thought that their spouse or sexual partner is being unfaithful without having any real proof, along with socially unacceptable or abnormal behaviour related to these thoughts. The most common cited forms of psychopathology in morbid jealousy are delusions and obsessions. It is considered a subtype of delusional disorder.
Have you been in a relationship where you felt like you are literally being cut off from your friends because of your partner or even a friend? Have you been afraid that it will be a problem to be free around other people because of your partner or friend? Are you terrified of to turn down your partner or friend’s proposal to be with you while you spend time with someone else? Is your partner consistently trying to find out whom you are with and with whom?These are quite typical signs of being with a toxic jealous person.
A lot of people take it for granted when they have the feeling of ownership and entitlement to another person when they should actually seek help. I bet you, the one that committed murder driven by jealousy probably did not think of himself as a jealous person before or after the act even when to everybody else, the motive was clear.
What I am trying to say is that, don’t be terrified and too quick to dismiss it when you sense some jealousy but be terrified when you act on that feeling . You may feel jealous sometimes, that’s natural but the point where you become controlling driven by jealousy, you need to seek help and never take it for granted. You are not a crazy person, you just need help.
The reason why it is important that you know that jealousy is natural is that it gives you the space to actually accept it; and observe yourself without being in denial of the fact. In the space of that observation is when you get to realize that you need help. Don’t be embarrassed about it if jealousy takes over you to act like you own someone else’s life because the only difference between you and many people is that fact that you act it out. That’s it! So please get help before you hurt yourself and those you love. Don’t take it for granted; accept it and work on it. Much love!
Okay so generally, what we know about our favorite instagram bodybuilders is the fact that they motivate us to workout. HAHAHA. Who am I kidding? There are many pot belly guys and caterpillar girls who follow them. For most people that follow these guys, do not workout themselves. Trust me, they follow for other reasons. For most people, to check out body aesthetics…drool over bodies they will never work for or have etc. But hey, these bodybuilders motivate a huge chunk of us too. My followers mentioned a few favorites on instagram, but we only picked those who have made bigger marks in bodybuilding. We are going to delve into what we like and dislike about them. Why they all boast of their sexuality? Or whether they’re just toothless lions? Why are they relevant? Why do people follow them? I will be mentioning them in no particular order. They are all awesome and that’s why we noticed them.
I know I said I wasn’t going to put them in no order of importance but FIIIISH this guy is by far one of the dopest instagram bodybuilding IG celebrity in Ghana and beyond. He is the ladies man! Girls love him and men wish they had his life! His real name is Jeffery Duffour but we love the sound of Hurricane_gh more!
He makes bodybuilding look good!! And he is a freaking Ghanaian man, an Asante man to be precise. We love all of him; from his branding to his training sessions, workout routines and his BODY!! We saw his humble beginnings when he started off as an instagram bodybuilder with only 1000’s of followers as a student in KNUST till now where he boasts of about 100K followers.
His instagram page changing scenes from some ‘corner corner’ gym bi to ‘abrokyere’ gym in the U.S.. God has been good to this guy oo. And the ladies…the ladies…he won’t stop flaunting them right before the eyes of gnashers like us. “Them dey rush him”
His page is always fun, variety and spicy. He is confident and has the sex appeal women drool over! Well, the only thing his fans don’t like about him is some of them think of him as arrogant. But who could blame him? He has to flex small especially if you are “wyd” or “hi” him on instagram to death. Some say he ‘chops’ the girls too much…they are the ones saying ooo. Not me!
I think he’s worked really hard to get where he is and he deserves some accolades.
He is known for his strong muscular physique and being the gym bro of hurricane_gh. They were the inseparable duo. “Gym buddies before hoes” before hurricane_gh left for the U.S. We miss those good days of bromance.
You still see them once in a while in pics together though. But lately, we see Tyme305 repping Gh gidigidi kraaa. “Agya rep what you have, anaa?” Yes, yes, we love Gh.*yawning. But if we get ah….hmmm
He is and has always been the cool and humble guy everybody loves. He takes pretty awesome pictures that makes the ladies go GAGA! Motivates the guys to work their hardest at the gym!
As for tyme, they say he is a loyal guy to his girlfriend if he is dating but never take him for a toothless lion.
Well, tyme is awesome! He deserves some accolades!
This guy has a following of over 30K. His real name is Emmanuel Ampadu. He is the favorite for a lot of people because he is described as a bundle of eye candy. Girls love him because of his height, his muscular physique and just recently he has started to make vlogs which people can now hear him speak; which they love too. He seem to have a lot of book knowledge to his training. He is not just about lifting the metals, chopping kenkey and waiting for the gains. He seems to know a lot about what he is doing. He’s got the shreds too!
As for the girls, hmmm this guy, we don’t say! The girls…dem dey rush em. And he too he dey take em! He is just like Messi, never misses a shot. We see him once in a while with some mouth drooling celebrities sef! Joselyn ETO MASS and tins. This boy go kill person!
The only thing his male fans don’t like is, they get sleepless nights when their girlfriends say, “I just followed this warmz_incredible” oh and then it gets worse when they say, “I want him to be my trainer” Bad bad girls.
His page is great and very educational. Love it!
Okay I don’t understand the slow pace of his following on instagram because I think he is an amazing bodybuilder who is very passionate about what he does. I think of him as the hulk kind of bodybuilder who is more bulky than shredded. Well, he is shredded but his abs is just the part that is not as shredded because of his body type and how huge he is I guess. He seems very D.B as Ghanaians would say… very “Mama-ba”. Loves his mum alot! A sign for a good husband material.
He is very much admired for his HUGE muscle build-up and his full sultry beard. He has proved that it is not followers that’s going to make you successful since his face is on many billboards all over the country. Yeah yeah!
He’s got a gym of his own and also into the sale of body building supplements. He is the kind of trainer ladies hang around with the excuse of working out but chale….they want some of that chocolate which they say he holds back from them. I don’t know oo. ‘Them dey rush him’ but I don’t know if he can’t see or he is just a good boy. Probably the girls don’t kiss and tell.
Oh yes, his pictures are awesome! They are to die for! He takes daring pictures too; nudes by the beach with big booty girls and tins! He is awesome and deserves accolades!
Yes, that’s his real name. For some reason, he’s been a personal favorite for a long time. I always said to my brother that he motivates me like no other. Why? I don’t really know. Probably because we both have four eyes!(we wear glasses). But he’s definitely not ectomorph
He’s got over 44K followers. He is more bulky than shredded but he’s still got the abs! Clothes look great on him. His smile gets the ladies to melt. The kind that will make them deny their boyfriends, parents and even their unborn children to be with him. But there’s this humble spirit with him. But don’t make a mistake! He is not humble everywhere! You know where I mean.*wink *wink
He is the kind that will say, “Hey girls, two at a time please. Can you do it line by line please? My mother raised a good boy…” No wonder he’s got the ‘Osofo papa'(decent) kind of page.
Seriously though, I don’t know why he is still gnashing. Well, we love him for his amazing physique, humility and smile.
This guy is an embodiment of the word ,”thirst trapping”. He has been thirst trapping the universe including his 44K followers since forever! He describes his numerous nude pics as art. He’s got most of them deleted though. But nobody can claim to have never seen the butt of iampoje before. Everybody has seen his buttocks before ooo. Go and ask Akua Donkor, she will give you all the details.
His discussions on sex and nude pictures with girls in amorous positions are never ending.
On a more serious note though,we love Iampoje because he is shredded like cheese and naturally very ‘artistic’, you know what I mean.
As for iampoje, the girls do not seem to kiss and tell at all! Guess he is just a talker but a saint on the inside!
Okay so guys, I’m kinda tired right now with the gossip. Need a break. These were just a few suggestions from my followers. Will be back with gists on the upcoming bodybuilders you should look out for. I think they are even way more interesting than these ones. Are there some BIG ones I forgot to mention, let me know. Any gists, let me know!
There are many reasons why I have never been in a typical….real…conventional relationship before! NEVER! You keep asking since my last post and I hope this may explain things.
1. Christian Background
I came from a christian background that said that, it was wrong to date until you are ready to get married. Yes!! I am serious. This is real, guys. You are discouraged to date until you are ready so if ‘your ready’ is 30 or 40 years old, you walk into a relationship only then for the very first time. Why I find that a little absurd now is that it is not like someone will be standing on hold waiting for you to be ready before you start dating. It is not like the person you will get married to is on the shelves at Walmart or Melcom that you can just pick up when you are ready. You know, it is pretty confusing and absurd. Did all people follow what we were told about dating? Nope! This takes me to my next point
2. Fervency in my faith
I love Jesus. My faith is important to me and I won’t do anything I believed will jeopardize that. I must say, staying away from relationships had numerous advantages too! I was always free, free in mind, spirit and self. I didn’t have to worry about someone else, didn’t have to compromise for someone else, didn’t have to think about sex and all the fears, worry and baggage that comes with it. My christian friends that dated had so much more to worry or think about than I did.
I need to tell you this story. The first love letter I got was in grade 5. It was from a girl I was very close to; in fact we were best friends. We used to speak about everything; God, school, family etc. One day, I saw a letter in my text book during a class. When I begun to read it and realized it was a love letter from her, my heart JUMPED! I quickly dipped it into my pocket. I knew I could be punished for it if the teacher saw it. During my break time, I went to the washroom to read the letter. And oh my God! I felt so guilty about the love letter she had written to me. It was not even sexual but I felt I had been dipped into sewage. Can you imagine that? I believed she had sinned. I thought I had sinned by being the focus of her love interest. Do you know what I did? Please don’t laugh at me. What the hell, you are already laughing. This is so twisted, guys.
I confronted her and expressed my grave DISAPPOINTMENT in her for expressing a romantic fantasy towards me. I spoke to her as if she had done an evil thing. The weirdest and funniest part about it was, my voice shook as if I was going to cry. I was so heartbroken and disappointed in her. For what? For being fond of me. I don’t know if she still remembers this but we have reconnected just recently, if she does, I’d be so embarrassed even though we were just kids and I know how hard we’d laugh about that.
I am just this person who FULLY goes for what he believes in, I hardly go halfway…and that takes me to the next point.
3. Commitment is LACKING
I am someone who goes all in for what I believe in. I go all in with my emotions, heart, thoughts, strength, my ALL. However, we live in a generation that will rather sprinkle water on themselves than bathe in it, we live in a world where people would want to eat their cake and have it too. People are just not in for commitment which I absolutely understand sometimes. Commitment is a scary thing…the fear of being stuck with somebody is something nobody wants. But let me go a little lovey-dovey here, true love is freeing; it allows you to be yourself…express yourself and bathe in the fluid of love. I am just that person who wants to know FOR SURE which I know is impossible but I want to be at least 80% sure is for the LOOOONG hall. Do I need therapy for this? Maybe I need some talking to.
4. I am ‘Effing’ too careful
This is something I wish I could turn off but I can’t. I probably need therapy for that. I have been friends with quite a number of people. I have always been the unattached person in many cliques so much that I have heard the bad and the worst. Girls have told me awful things they do to their boyfriends(cheating especially) because of my seemingly permanent state of being the ‘not ready to mingle’ guy; they’ve always felt free to say it all. The ignorant boyfriends cleave unto these girls as if they are angels and I have seen these happen over and over. A bad experience in trying to build a relationship could deter one from ever getting into one. I am the kind of guy that fell on a pitch trying to play football for the first time and quit playing for the rest of my life. Yes! That is me! Unless that thing is absolutely worth my LIFE! So careful, hell yes, I am! Is it that good? Well, I guess not really.
5. People just don’t know what they want
For a lot of people, dating is like shopping. This don’t fit, unto the next! Giving the impression that you are not sure, that you are not going all in for this to make things work, POOOOF! ADAKA DABRA!
6. Saw dating a burden than a priority
Why would anybody want to include someone else in his boat when he or she can ride alone. I am naturally a loner and an introvert so ‘me’ times have been and will always be important to me. I once passed through Osu on a school day. I had taken a cab on my way to school. Then a female friend, Nadia called in an almost seductive voice, she asked, “Can you please get me fried rice and grilled chicken from Papaye restaurant?” I was late and I had already taken a cab. Typically, it is expected that I will turn and make that sacrifice. Hell no! I can’t stand anybody inconveniencing me like that! A relationship where someone would complain when I don’t call or text. Asking me for favors and dates when all I want to do is sleep. They say, I will change when I fall in love. I hope they are right! So let’s wait and see!
I am tired right now…can’t edit this but I needed to explain things to you since you guys kept asking. Posting right away. If you can relate, let me know or share it. Hope you are answered. Love you!