You can watch the research I made about virginity in Africa on my vlog youtube channel page.
After watching this video, it must have been such a relief for young guys out there who are still virgins. Apparently, girls ‘dig’ virgins. Guess the pick up line for guys now will be,”Hey..I am a virgin. Do you want to break it?”. It breaks my heart when guys who have never had sex before feel like they aren’t men enough when they watch and listen to other guys boast about their sexual exploits. This was something I spoke about some time ago in this post. I don’t think being a virgin should be anything to be ashamed of. It is actually something you should be proud of even as a male virgin.
In the African society, virginity has always meant pride,dignity and respect especially for the young ladies. However, this notion is gradually fading with time. Girls are now becoming eager day by day to break their virginity. It is amazing how virginity is becoming a thing of shame.
Virginity being a criteria for marriage in the olden days was definitely a great way of reducing divorce in Africa. Statistics have shown that the number one reason for divorces is linked to sexual gratification. A lot of couples break up because of their ill sexual relationship; maybe because they are not satisfied with each other sexually. A survey conducted by a law firm showed that 43% of divorces actually roots from sexual incompatibility. This cause may not necessarily break a marriage but yields to other problems in marriage which may lead to divorce; sometimes causing the couple to lose track of the main reason for divorce.
The point I am trying to make is this, these problems were eliminated when virginity was highly esteemed in our society because married couples did not have the opportunity to compare their partners sexual prowess to that of their past partners. Some married couples will attest to the fact that, by virtue of humanity, they sometimes think about their past partners sexually; at worst whilst they are having sex with their partners.
Psychologist have proved that the mental faculty that is responsible for sexual excitement is oriented into experiencing a trigger of that excitement. What do I mean? The reason why some porn addicts cannot climax without porn and some people who masturbate cannot climax without masturbating is because of the ‘orientation’ factor. They have oriented their minds to communicate with their bodies to react to porn and masturbation with a strong sexual drive. The mind therefore functions fully in that regard because for such people, ‘real sex’ has already been registered.
How interesting and powerful would it be that your first experience of sex is your life partner whom you would share your life with forever. Here, your ‘orientation’ is your partner. When you think about sex, you think about your partner. Can staying faithful be any easier?
Have you not heard people say,”There is no way I can get over my first boyfriend”? Or even guys say, “My first girlfriend is the best!”. It is very common to hear stories about first love never dying.
Psychologist have proved that even our sexual preferences(what we like to do sexually) has its roots from our ‘orientation’. The very first things we tried that brought us sexual satisfaction with our partners becomes our preferences.
Think about it?
If you are saving yourself, let it be for your future life partner because it is worth it. Don’t be ashamed of your status as a virgin. You can only be prouder.
Remember to “stay true to yourself cos that is AWESOME!”
P.S I want you to see what South Africans(KwaZulu-Natal) go through to keep their girls virgins in this video below and also pay attention to the reasons they give. Let me know what you think about this?