My alarm went off and I knew it was time to wake up and face reality. I buried my face in my pillow and turned off the alarm without looking at my phone. Apparently, I prefer the dream world to reality and I wasn’t ready for the transition just yet. My little brother so excited about his role in his new movie, shook me vigorously in his quest to wake me up; he knew it definitely took more than a tap to get me off my bed. Then he shouted,” I have got magnet earrings…” with those words my transition to reality was hastened, only that I thought I was still dreaming. “What?!”, I exclaimed as if I wasn’t sleeping only a few seconds ago. Till he explained that it was for his role in a movie, my heart was in my hand. I could not believe how scared I was of earrings. I laughed so hard in disbelief. What is wrong with me?, I thought. I stepped out into the light, tried it on and took a shot of it. For a moment there, I thought I looked different…and then I thought it didn’t look so bad. “Now what do I think?”. You will find out soon enough.
I never intend to wear an earring ever in my life but why was I so scared of it? I was scared because of what people will think of me if I wore an earring. Especially what family and friends would feel about it. You know, people usually judge people based on what they see and it is even worse in the African society. Beneath the appearance there is always a person we do not take the time to find out about.
Male earrings they say, originated from Pirates as a form of financial security for their burial in case they died in a far away land. A lot of people attribute earrings to gay men sometimes dependent on the ear on which it is. Reality is, a lot of men wear it for FASHION.
The fact is, people have different views and perceptions about people based on their appearance. Personally, I don’t feel it is good for my image as a Christian in my society to be in dreadlocks, tattoos or piercing but do I have to treat anyone with these any less than I would treat any other person? Absolutely not.
I believe HYPOCRISY comes from the expression HYPE-CRAZY. This is the hallmark of exaggeration and blowing things out of proportion. Hypocrisy is a ‘land’ where we fuzz and make mountains out of hills even if those mountains are our habitat. Where we seem to treat issues and people so aggressively simply based on what we know; which is usually nothing. We know nothing about the things we treat so harshly in this superficial world because we don’t take time to know, learn or even get close to the things that are alien to our beliefs and nature as a people.
The HYPE-CRAZY would say,” Did you just taste the alcoholic beverage?. That is evil.” I needed to find out if the wine had gone bad before serving it for crying out loud. I only tasted it , I didn’t want to drink it!. Another typical superficial HYPE-CRAZY comment is, ” He is in dreadlocks. He is going to hell.” It may be uncomfortable but comments like that are really terrible and can wreck a person. What happens to the person’s intelligence, wit, artistic abilities and every other good thing the person may possess?
In high school, a classmate was always teased and called names like ‘Scar-face’ because his face was terribly scared. Nobody knew the story behind his scar until he told me that he was involved in a terrible accident that led to the loss of his younger brother. It was such a painful story for him to share but people made fun of him because of the physical scar it left behind. When other students found out the story behind his scar, they felt really sorry for their insensitivity but they had already caused him pain.
I wish the world quit being HYPE-CRAZY and superficial so that we learn to treat issues and people with more depth and reason.
The connection with some people’s physical appearance such as those to SALVATION (christianity) is another debate for another time. I believe despite the fact that it may not be acceptable or attractive for the most part, it is really untrue to connect any of these things to christianity. If a man in dreadlocks or a woman in anklets walks into a church, it will surprise you how much 90% of many Ghanaian churches will alienate that person simply because of his hairstyle or choice of jewelry. Yes, they may mean a thousand things elsewhere but Jesus would have seen beyond all of that to embrace them and love them anyway.