Well for alot of us, the question would be, “Why should I say no to sex?” For people with questions like that, I think you should read this post rather; a post I had written a while ago by clicking here.
As I promised in my previous blog post, I am going to give you tips on how to say “no” sex. The best thing to have in mind is,” You can never say “no” to sex”. Avoidance method is always the best; flee just like the bible says. God must have known the biology of man to have recommended it to man.
Rule Number 1:
Be willing to abstain from sex. Unless you make the personal decision to abstain from sex, your quest to abstain from sex will never work.
Rule Number 2:
Do not give excuses to the obvious truths just to make way for sex. When he asks you to go on a date in his house, do not say he probably wants to watch tv. That’s why there are cinema halls. Who goes on a date in a HOME? Quit giving yourself the excuse, “It is just a kiss”, ” It is a harmless touch.”Before you know it you are JUST in bed but this time, wishing your clothes were HARMLESSLY on; questioning yourself, “What have I done?”.
Rule Number 3:
Get rid of any means of reaching that guy or girl who would only lead you into having sex. Don’t keep such contacts. It’s useless since all he or she can offer you is sex. Your quest to liberation from sexual slavery will not be possible if you keep contacts of people who would just lead you to fornication. If you receive a message from that ‘sexual partner’, delete his or her contact immediately after that. Don’t trust your self! You may find yourself dialing the digits some other time if you don’t get rid of it.
Rule Number 4:
Quit watching pornographic materials.The eye is definitely the GATE to your SOUL.It will only make your sexual urges heightened. You will find it extra hard to control your urges if you keep watching pornography.
Rule Number 5:
Be busy. The bible says, ” The devil finds work for idle hands” Find your passion; what makes you feel happy and fulfilled. Replace sex with productive and very useful activities that will help you grow and glow in many aspects of your life. That is true ecstasy and joy; your passion!
Rule 6 :
When the urge is in emergency mode!
Focus all that energy into something else like jogging. Many other blogs and even some men of God recommend masturbation as remedy. Masturbation may keep you from fornicating in the short run but what it does to your mind is that it keeps your mind psyched for sex after a while of masturbation. You even get more fired up for sex after masturbation. That is why masturbation is highly addictive and discouraged. Masturbation has the potential of taking over your life and even become more controlling than sex. In fact, masturbation is a topic for another blog post.
Rule Number 7:
This is a very controversial point that many self-help and even religious books suggest because if we speak truth, most people practice it as a way to avoid sex. Masturbation is practiced by both male and females using lubricants and dildos to arouse their sexual organs to obtain orgasm. What makes this controversial and discouraged by many especially religious bodies are the outweighing negative effects which I elaborate in this blog post here. One may become addicted and this could affect your real sexual experience when you are finally blessed with a partner. Although this seems like the only way for many, it can be detrimental to your physical, emotional and spiritual well being.
Final but the most important Rule:
Keep God closer. A force greater than your strength, is and has always been God. Praying and getting closer to him is the best remedy of them all. What God does for you in a period of sexual temptation is, he gives you strength to overcome sexual immorality. He gives you ecstasy and satisfaction no amount of sex can offer. That is the power of a close relationship with God. How do you draw closer to God? Easy! Prayer, the word of God and fellowship.
These tips are definitely worth practicing if you want to treat sex as sacred as it really is.
These are the simple tips I always share with countless number of people who always ask me with no aorta of hope,” How do I say “no” to sex”. The mistake people always make is they wait for sex to come stare them in the face expecting to throw a punch. Avoidance is always the best method. It always works!!