This is probably a thought that never crosses the mind of the youth of our generation. The question would rather be,” Why on earth would I say “no” to sex. The most cemetery-like post I have ever published was, “slave to sex”. I could imagine why it had very little attention. The story seemed usual and often won the “and so what” remark. However, one of the main reasons for the silence was probably because I asked for ways and measures to abstain from sex. It is probably something a lot of people have not thought of nor deemed it necessary. Well, I am going to answer it in this blog post.
For a lot of young people, sex is recreational. For married couples, it is both recreational and procreational. From the bible and the Quran, God instituted sex for married couples to procreate. However from the romantic novels and movies, it is for the unmarried as well. A lot of people take sex for granted; both men and women alike. I believe sex is a spiritual tie that bonds two individuals together. If you are married, that bond makes your marriage stronger. If you have had about ten sexual partners, well….your bond must be quite the circle; all of you are connected. What if you can not count? Then, you have a spiritual tie with the world! No matter how far partners or ex-partners drift apart, sex creates an unbreakable bond between them. That is why no matter how old, young or distant, there is always that ‘thing’ that keeps them connected. That ‘thing’ whether acknowledged or not is usually felt upon seeing the person you have had sex with before.
When an individual gains control over his or her sexual life, everything else falls in place. Likewise, when you lose control of your sexual life, everything else tends to fall apart. A person’s life may be driven so much by sex that it affects every aspect of his life. Usually when you talk to these people, they are always in denial of the reality that sex has taken the wheel of their lives whilst they sit in the back seat. A manager cannot manage his subordinates because he is probably sleeping with his secretary which has become an open secret at the organization. A guy cannot take his pen from a girl at the brink of a test because he wants to have sex with her. The little money a girl gets from her parents is exhausted on makeup and outfits; as well as expensive gifts for a guy she is attracted to. Perhaps you want to prevent mistakes you see people make everyday through sex like having illegitimate children, losing their jobs because they had relations with co leagues, losing respect for promiscuous behavior….As young people and even for a bunch of old people, our lives are often driven by sex.
However, It is very necessary for an individual to make bold, firm and profitable decisions in life. This cannot be done when you have sex controlling your life. I hope I have answered people who were probably asking,” why on earth would I say “no” to sex. Well, let us jump to the main purpose for this blog post.
Parents usually tell their children to wait till they find the right person. Churches tell us to abstain from sex till we get married. The society…well depends on the kind of people you find yourself amongst may tell you differently. One thing parents, church and even the society does not teach us is how to gain control over our sex life. For many it is simply IMPOSSIBLE to abstain from sex. I disagree to this IMPOSSIBILITY. “Saying “No” to sex is POSSIBLY IMPOSSIBLE”. Ironic enough, I strongly agree to this statement. Puzzled? Allow me explain.
I contemplate the number of strong chaste Christian men who would walk away from a lady whom they are attracted to when she stands offering herself for sex in a very compromising position. It would definitely take grace! I contemplate the number of chaste women upon the kiss and touch of a man they have been praying for and dreaming about will halt the sexual attempt and walk away.. Now a days, it is very rare.
Never trust your strength so much into saying you can always say “No” to sex because your strength might fail you even if you were immortal or angel . Ooops! Angels in the bible were even drawn by their lust for earthly women and had sex with them. This shows that even the immortal and angelic beings have their own struggles of saying “no” to sex.
As a husband or wife, if you trust yourself and your spouse so much because you believe it is IMPOSSIBLE for you to cheat neither can your spouse, then am sorry you living in a fool’s paradise. God himself is aware of this challenge and that is why he asked us to flee from them. He wants us to run as swift as we can from them! Don’t trust yourself because that is the only way you can gain absolute control of your sex life.
The answer is,” It is possibly impossible to say “No” to sex so flee from it”. Avoidance method is the best way. Will give you tips in my next blog post on the avoidance method. I practice those tips and it works great!
If you have got some tips too, would love to hear it. Any thoughts on the subject are welcome as well.