When I stated just recently on Instagram about never being a real relationship before, people thought that was sad. You can view it here.
It is my wish that people are able to live their lives happily; whether they are in a relationship or not. Naturally, people are wired for relationships; platonic, romantic, family etc. So it is absolutely normal for people to feel incomplete or unhappy because of lack of any of these relationships. Fact is, usually, it’s relatively easier to find a friend…mostly, family is gifted to us, readily available for us in this world. However, finding a romantic relationship is relatively harder. However, it is God’s will for everybody reading this to be happy; single or not. Till the right person comes along, you deserve happiness.
1. Stop treating your single-hood as a transition
Did your eyebrows raise at this point? Hell yeah! I mean it. Sometimes the reason why we find ourselves depressed and sad about being single is because we treat it like a transition…a stepping stone to finding someone. “I will do this with my wife…I will do this with my boyfriend…Oh when I get engaged, I will…This would have been great if…” Why not do it now! That thought makes us put on hold a lot of things our minds could potentially delve into and could crave for to make us happy. Sadly, all we do is wait for ‘ prince charming’ or ‘Queen of Sheba” to come along. Stop thinking that way and explore! Love life and live it!
2. Invest in other relationships:
People act as if romantic relationships are the only relationships you draw companionship from. Spend time with friends and family. They give companionship….except for sex of course. Ha! now you thinking friends with benefits. For me, if we are doing sex with benefits, we are definitely not friends! Just saying….
3. Find yourself and be happy with yourself
For most people, they hardly spend time with themselves. In finding who they are, in investing in themselves, in loving themselves. Trust me, if you haven’t done enough searching of yourself, you will lack when you find someone else. If you can’t work on and by yourself, you can’t do that with someone else. Most importantly, if you can’t love yourself by yourself, you definitely can’t love someone else or receive love from someone else. You need to spend time doing this by YOURSELF.
4. Sex is right with you
For lack of better words to describe this, this maybe a little ambiguous but I am okay with that. Knowing that sex is right within you and inside of you, allows you to peacefully be satisfied with yourself within your own skin. “Nobody is sexier than I am” and “I love myself”. “I’ve got the sex I need!”
5. Follow your dreams and goals in life
You got to stay committed to you! If you can’t follow your dreams and goals in your single life, you can’t do that at no point of your life. In your singleness, instead of spending your time crying and hopping from one person to another trying to cleave onto one or three, it is a better idea to fight for your goals, dreams and aspirations in life. It is a period you are most concentrated and focused, you are more independent, it is expected that you should have more financial control. So this is just the point to do that.
6.Do your favorite things/ your hobbies
If you love travelling, there’s no better time to do that than when you are single. If you love hiking, reading, writing…trust me, there is NO better time than that! Do them! You can do them now that you are single with no interruptions.
7. Stop thinking for people
In fact doing the above mentioned, will save you from thinking for people. What I mean is thoughts like, “He is into me”, “She loves me so much”, ” We are dating”,” I lost him” when you never had him. When you are busy following the above points, you will have no time to assume or think for others. When she is into you, she will sure make you see that! When he is not going to give up on you, you will see the fight for you! At the end of the day, you will treasure yourself and the person you MAY end up with.
7. Knowing that while you do the above points, the best person could best find you!
You are at the best point of yourself when you practice the above points. You are not this confused person who acts like a cat being so needy and clingy. You are not that depressed person that will just settle for anybody in search for happiness as if commitment is suppose to be a day long and not forever. People have turned dating into shopping for clothes in the U.S.A instead of treating it like shopping for clothes in Ghana. To understand this better, you can read this.