The fact that I am sexually aroused does NOT mean I want to have sex with you!! It’s just a biological reaction but my consent is a psychological one. An average man gains an erection a number of times in a day and in more than 90% of those times, it’s unwanted.
Men gain erection by touch; of his jeans, his hands or someone else’s. It could be from the temperature usually when it’s too cold. Even individuals who identify as asexual, experience erections because it’s just biological.
Erection is biological but CONSENT is Psychological. The fact that he has a ‘boner’ does not mean he wants to have sex. And to you men, the fact that you have a boner does not mean you should give in when you really don’t want to. The other person DOES NOT have the right to your body just because you have a boner.
Statistics show that men who experienced arousal during their sexual abuse experience are more likely to suffer chronic depression and suicidal thoughts. So if you ever thought that you probably wanted it because there was an erection, think again. If you blame yourself for having to go through with it against your will because there was an erection. Please quit it!!
You are a man and you are strong enough to say 2 important things; “NO” and “I was sexually abused” those are words only the strongest of men can utter.