Lesbianism, commonly known in Ghana as ‘supi’ has many reactions to it; disgusting, attractive, sinful or simply indifferent. It is hard to know how people really feel about it because some guys say it is disgusting when they are in a formal setting and of course, in church. However, these same guys when they are amongst themselves easily admit to how sexy and attractive they think it is; even some ‘Christian’ brothers. I still wonder what people actually think of lesbianism especially MALES. Will their feeling towards it be any different if they found out the lesbian is their girlfriends?
Few months ago, I had a shocking revelation about a friend who’s been dating her boyfriend for over four years now. She confessed to me that she is a lesbian and has been cheating on her boyfriend with her best friend. Yet, they seem happy. Her boyfriend suspects nothing. In fact, what will a guy suspect when his girlfriend is cheating on him with another girl. An African man may see all the obvious signs and still attribute it to nothing. An African guy who suspects his girlfriend of cheating because she has been on phone for hours clears all suspicions when he finds out that her last call was from Akua, a girl. Suspicions are cleared when his girlfriend says, “I spent my whole week with Akua”. I am not saying men must have suspicions about their girlfriends being lesbians. What I am saying is, it is really hard for guys to know if their girlfriends are lesbians.
Lets cut the crap! Most guys upon seeing two girls kiss is a such a beautiful sight to behold but will it be any different if you walked in on your girlfriend kissing her best friend, Akua?
My friend loves her boyfriend and thinks they have the perfect relationship but she is afraid of ruining the relationship if she tells her boyfriend about her sexual relationship with her best friend…..lets call her Akua. I think telling her boyfriend about it will change….a lot. I almost said it will change nothing but the truth is, it is different when a guy knows a lesbian or witnesses a scene of two girls making out but when the girl involved is someone you love and may marry someday, it is definitely a different feeling. However, I cant speak for all guys….
I’m sure you are probably wondering,” How is sex with her boyfriend?” She explains that one of the reasons she cheats on him is because of how horrible sex is with her boyfriend.
It is not such a problem if your boyfriend is gay. That would be easy! ‘She will dump yo ass’ but for a lesbian whose boyfriend is in love with her….telling him may breed suspicions every time she simply wants to see Akua, her best friend?, telling him may leave it imprinted in her boyfriend’s memory forever, or she may even lose the relationship. Should she keep it a secret and work on her sexual issues personally?.
Funny enough, a lot of guys may not even describe their girlfriend’s sexual relationship with another girl as cheating…. “Is that even sex?”, a typical African thought .
The truth is, this scenario is a common reality in Africa. The society gives no moment pause for putting ones life together.. we have got expectations!!