1. Julie Buhite
    January 20, 2015 @ 9:22 pm

    Good points. Good questions. I think that cheating is cheating and lying is lying. The friend is being physically and emotionally intimate with two people at the same time and hiding it. It falls under deception and trust issues regardless of the gender. Possibly more important than the physical issues are the emotional intimacy ones. Still, it can be confusing because it’s perhaps easy to shrug off the girl-with-girl dynamic as something lighter than it truly is. As always, a great topic.


    • The Voice.
      January 20, 2015 @ 9:59 pm

      Thanks Julie. Always making substantia l contributions. Do you think she should tell her boyfriend about her relationship? Considering the fact that she wants to gradually quit her sexual relationship with ‘Akua’


      • Julie Buhite
        January 20, 2015 @ 10:10 pm

        I think that in most cases, except in certain cases like abuse (where things can get tricky), honesty is the best policy. It’s an integrity issue. For me, where there is a lack of truth, there is a lack of respect and dignity both to self and the other parties involved. Growth becomes stagnated and drama ensues. I think that the idea of gradually quitting the relationship with ‘Akua’ might be a form of fooling herself. All in all, it sounds to me like playing with fire and playing with others’ lives and hearts. I am very fond of what Jesus is quoted as saying in John 8:32: “Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” The truth is tough and scary, but it builds character and maturity and courage, and it makes us worthy of trust. It also makes it a lot easier to like ourselves and experience true intimacy in our lives. 🙂


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