He eagerly wanted to go out to play but couldn’t find the keys.”Come and get it.” she whispered after hiding the key in her vagina. The little boy looked at the house help he trusted; a girl whom he saw as his big sister but now appearing to be this weird person made it very uncomfortable for him. She smiled and beckoned him to come closer. He inserted his fingers into her vagina reluctantly to get the keys for the door. As much as he wasn’t too sure of what was going on, he had an awful feeling of how wrong that was. She made it even more familiar each time he wanted to go out to play.
Young boys face sexual molestation and abuse more than we think. I came to this shocking realization when I was in High School. There was a time where my dorm boys sat down to talk about male sexual abuse and molestation. It was then that I came to realize that men are abused more than we think. Moreover, it usually happens in their defenseless stages in life(childhood). We sat down to share stories of subtle, obvious and sometimes violent sexual experiences we had as children by grown ups whom we trusted. Surprisingly, almost every guy had a story to share.
“The smell…the smell” he says. “I can never take that smell out of my head. It is so bad…horrible. Vagina smells so bad”, he confessed to have always thought. That was how he had always seen women; disgusting,smelly,sex crazy and just weird. That was what his house help did to him when she forced his hand into her vagina after giving that innocent little boy a bath.
As we sat there and shared these experiences, we realized a similar trend. House helps or maids are very prone to abuse a child than any other person in the house. House helps or maids are usually the only ones that do not have blood relationship with those in the household. As parents, we need to be extremely careful and selective when it comes to house helps or maids. They can easily destroy the life of a child in a second.
That is why this subject is very important and has to be emphasized more than it is in Ghana and Africa as a whole.
I am the production manager of a movie called VEILED that is soon to be premiered on the 2nd of September,2017 at 2pm at the Global Cinemas. It has an amazing story about a boy who was sexually abused as a child and grew to face the effects of it. His strife to rise above the effects, creates a captivating experience for viewers.