I have never drunk nor been to a pub or club. Never been to a wild party, never had a sleep over or anything ‘exciting’ as you’d think. ‘Exciting’ is relative though. For a lot of people who follow me, friends and family, they’d say the only reason why I don’t do a lot of these things is because of my faith. I don’t think that it is entirely true.
Yes, growing up in a Christian home, a lot of things were not encouraged; listening to secular music, drinking alcoholic beverages(not even a sip), going to wild parties, clubs, having sexual relations before marriage and many other things were deemed unrighteous.
In the first year of University, almost every other weekend, my best friend went to a club. The weird thing was, it never occurred to me that I could go with him neither did he ask me. Now when I think about it, I wonder why he never asked me and why I never thought about it as a possibility. I need to ask him though. “Bro, you need to send me a message ASAP explaining why.” in a commando voice.
The truth is, my faith definitely played a role since that was how I was brought up. But it gets to a point where these things become part of you without putting in any effort or thought to it. It becomes YOU.
So what point am I trying to make with this post?
People have different lifestyles and beliefs in this world. People drink, smoke, tattoo, pierce, atheists. Muslims, prostitution, club,gay, Christian, Hindu, fornicate, Gothic and many others. But the reason why people especially Christians, other religious bodies and most Africans are judgmental and hateful is that people refuse to realize that it is what they KNOW just as what we believe is what we KNOW. I believe the ONLY difference between myself and the Hindu and the one that does not believe in God or the other person that sees a one night stand as a norm is EXPERIENCE. If I were born where they were born, saw things they saw, heard things they heard, I’d have probably been just like them.
If I were abused growing up; verbally or physically, I’d have probably been a drug addict too.. If I lost my only child praying to a God I barely understood or knew, I could have been an atheist too. If I were poor and hooked on drugs, I would have probably been a Gigolo too. When people begin to realize that our experiences is ALL that makes us different, people will be less judgmental and that would create a space where we are less defensive or offensive. Do you know what that would do? It will create an amazing world where we can be heard no matter whom we are. A world where people can be open enough to listen to truth and actually consider it without feeling attacked, hurt or broken. A world devoid of hypocrisy. A world of LOVE is what Christ desired…the only one true weapon that can make the world a better place.
I am no different from that fornicator, robber or Hindu…the only difference is my experience. We all have to know that and love each other in appreciation. Peace🙏!!
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