There are a lot of things that men do that we feel that it is just part of being a man. It has become so common and accepted that even though women go through hell because of them every day, they have no option but to accept it too.
If you are a man who is reading this, then you are a REAL MAN who wants to know how to be a better man for a REAL WOMEN. A REAL WOMAN reading this also deserves an accolade for trying to find her voice and a firm stand in her femininity.
Apart from the many discriminations that women face in their lives ( workplace, leadership, etc) there are subtle ones that hugely affect women that we hardly hear about.
In reference to my Instagram funny video post here, I post this.
1. Catcalling: ‘
We are sorry for putting fear in you and making you uncomfortable to walk down the streets peacefully. We are sorry for invading your space and touching you when we know we are not supposed to. We are sorry for calling you names and passing degrading comments when you pass by such as, “Shake that booty!” , “Look at that fine ass”, “Come to me baby”. We are sorry for making you afraid to wear make-up, put on some heels and wear your favorite dress on the streets for fear of being catcalled. For acting like a bunch of 2 year olds, we are sorry.
2. Social Media Harrassment
We are sorry for the incessant harassment we inflict on you on social media. We are sorry for not realizing that while we are sending you disrespectful messages like, “Shake your boobs and let me see” without knowing who you are, there are many other men that consistently send you messages like those every day.
3.Daring to ignore
We are sorry to reign hurtful insults at you like, “RUDE B*TCH!” when you dare to ignore messages that are disrespectful to whom you are as a woman. You have every right to choose whom you want to speak to and you owe no stranger on the internet any explanation.
4.Being treated like a piece of meat/ sex object
Sometimes you are so sexually attractive that we cannot help but have imaginations of your naked bodies in our minds but for treating you like sex objects and a mere piece of meat, we are sorry. For being uncivilized and disrespectful, forgetting the manners our great grandfathers tried to pass down to us like introducing ourselves when we meet a lady instead of saying “your ass is jiggly” , “I like your perky breasts” as the first point of introduction. And forgetting how to take you on dates instead of giving you directions to our homes and where our rooms are located on our fathers’ compound on the first day, we are sorry. We are sorry for forgetting that you have intellect, skills, character and other things we can appreciate and love you for instead of how bouncy everything else could be in bed. We understand for many centuries, how you’ve been treated like commodities and sex objects and we realize that it doesn’t have to be the same in our day.
For being assholes without knowing, we are sorry. We respect you as women and appreciate you.
Men, let’s not forget that our sisters, our mothers and even our girlfriends and wives go through this everyday. So it does affect us too. Let’s stand against this by making a change in ourselves today! Sharing will also be a good start.
If you are a woman and you relate to this, you can start by sharing this and let me hear your thoughts and experiences in the comment section down below. Peace!